You stepped into the age of 20s, you are just done with your teenage. You constantly feel that people don’t understand you, and even worse that they don’t try to understand you as they don’t want to accept you. You feel the constant need of being heard, understood, and accepted for what you are and what you are becoming.
This age is the age of growth of your cognitive processes. This age is the age of shaping your personality. The way you think and feel things. And you start exploring the world, creating your own and even question the usual norms. You want to define your own right and wrong.
And once you are done then you look around for acceptance. As a natural instinct you want to find similar people. Your community.
Instead you find that others are still busy in figuring out their own normal. And then, you are misunderstood, and uncalled for. Sorry. You look fine but deep inside you are broken.
First thing you do – you adapt to what’s around (survival of the fittest). You are good at it. You are happy, you now have friends and may be even boyfriend/girlfriend. You are happy that you have people who care for you, support and understand you.
But soon they leave. You know why? Because they didn’t like you in first place, and you both were lying. And in this process, you forget that your own personality is under threat.
Stop lying. Stop imitating/adapting to the world around you. World will never understand you.
Be who you are. Own your energy. If you will be who you really are, first you will be alone. That’s the hard truth.
But slowly your own people will find way towards you. They always do. Because your friends, your people – should support you, your friends should inspire you. Your circle should be well rounded. Keep those who try. Keep those who stick around and embrace your uniqueness. Keep those who are happy for you, who support you. You will find your Monika/Ross/Joey/Chandler/Rachel/Phoebe.
Keep it tight, but not closed.
Keep it open, because remember one day when you were trying hard to be accepted by the world, you were left alone. Just try, make an effort to understand those left behind. As, you are not alone.
And you know you are strong. You have survived. Your kindness will make the world a better place. Always.
The Wanderer 