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Is there more to life than just being happy

They say all what matters in life is happiness. You need not worry too much about the future and live in the present and be happy instead.

Happy Happy Happy. It is easy to say than to be in reality. So what is happiness?

The oxford dictionary says Happiness is the feeling you have when things give you pleasure and can be quite a lively feeling; contentment is a quieter feeling that you get when you have learned to find pleasure in things.

In philosophy, happiness is translated from the Greek concept of eudaimonia, and refers to the good life, or flourishing, as opposed to an emotion.

In psychology, happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being which can be defined by, among others, positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. Happy mental states may reflect judgements by a person about their overall well-being.

Wikipedia says, since the 1960s, happiness research has been conducted in a wide variety of scientific disciplines, including gerontology, social psychology, clinical and medical research and happiness economics.

I didn’t know that happiness was a matter of research in itself which is being studied for ages.

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Now, it means, each day every human is striving towards a happier life. This actually creates a scenario where the person is not content with the present life and hoping for a better future and telling himself that “I am fine, I am okay, I am happy.”

Life is not just about being happy. Life is about learning, about being agile. World is changing everyday and one needs to adapt to it. And not being concerned about being happy, and not thinking too much but being focused towards goals and responsibilities is what life is about.

Say I love cooking. I have a family of 4. I have a job. I cook everyday for my husband, my kids and me. And I feel it like a job. What if I start enjoying it and start preparing meals with more happiness. But does it matter, will the food taste better if I cook it being happy or I cook being normal like I am doing my job. That’s a mystery to me.

If you’ll look for happiness, you’ll end being sadder instead. Because now you’ll focus on things which make you happy and if you don’t get that thing or fail at it, you’ll be sad. So why not just focus on life than looking forward being happy everyday.

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I understand, it is very challenging. Everybody is looking for a better tomorrow. I think the best way is not to push yourself hard and not link your happiness with things or people. You have one life. I think laughter is the best solution. You may not be happy, you had a bad day, but you can always read a comic book or watch a comedy movie and feel good. Yes, feeling good should be the goal is life than being just happy.

I asked mom, “Are you happy?” She went into a deep thought and said she’s fine, she’s okay, she’s happy. And that one question I asked her triggered gloom and her entire life flash backed in front of her, where she compared reality with her hopes and dreams. And she must have felt a little less. This is the same question we ask ourselves everyday and end up being trapped in emotional stress of not accomplishing dreams.

 

It’s the want of happiness, which causes pain. The desire which never ends. God created happiness I think to create sadness. The trick is to feel good instead.

A couple of days later I asked my mom, “Are you good?” She said oh yes I am. And yes is good actually. So goodness is the key. Not thinking much, and focusing on whatever is going on, whatever is best for the body, mind and soul.

We are all good and will be good everyday.

Have a good day.

 

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Why you don’t have to be sad anymore

I messaged one of my best friends on WhatsApp, Hey! Good morning… How are you.. And then she says she’s fine but couldn’t sleep well last night because of an urgent project delivery. Then I speak about how I woke up late, missed gym and skipped breakfast. We rant about how boring, hectic, and difficult our lives are.

Then our conversation takes a positive turn when we hope that everything will be alright, let’s just work hard and meet someday on weekend. And said goodbye.

But deep inside we both are really sad. We are waiting for something extraordinary happen to our lives.

Why are we sad, there’s no specific reason.. Just a perpetual gloom.

I realise, it’s just our attitude which makes us feel so. It’s our mind which is over thinking, nothing else. Our life is one of the most fortunate ones.

My mind doesn’t agree yet. Let me list down the positives and negatives.

  1. We have a family which cares for us every single day.
  2. We have a mother who gets up before us every day, prepares food and leaves for work.
  3. We have a father who is often working off station but never misses a day when he asks if we reached home safe.
  4. We have our grandparents who love us unconditionally.
  5. We have loving siblings, cousins, and friends who make our life worth living.
  6. We have good health, sound body.
  7. We have been well educated
  8. We have a stable job.
  9. We live in a good city, with all facilities.
  10. We are just 22. We are young and yet to discover many opportunities waiting for us. 
  11. We have time, energy and freedom.

You might also have a special someone who cares a little extra for you 😛 If you don’t, you’ll find one day.

    Ah, I think, I could go on and on. I’ve been such a fool. I’ve got everything.

    Now, I was in metro train, going to office in the morning. I saw a woman, in late 20s. She had only two fingers in her each hand and feet. And still she was happy. It seemed like she was going to office too. And this gave me all courage to write this article and remember this day forever.

    It is true. Our generation is blessed with all conveniences. Our parents and grandparents worked through hardships back then. To us, everything is available so easily. 

    All we need to do is focus and be determined for our goal.

    Now I promise, everyday I will thank God for this beautiful life and my family. You should too.

    Don’t be sad unnecessarily. Be happy. Be normal. Be motivated. Life will come to you on its own.

    I will share following mantra:

    • Don’t think about negatives, only positives
    • Be thankful for everything
    • Utilise your time, never stop learning
    • Value people in your life, you don’t know when one leaves
    • Trust God, trust yourself
    • Have patience and work for the best

    Your life is already good. You are alive. You are blessed. Have a great day sunshine!

    Stairs to the moon

    When you help them build stairs to the moon,
    And you think you all are going together and reach up soon.
    But you forget one important thing,
    The wooden staircase could take only one person at a time.

    So they climb up, leaving you behind.

    You thought we’ll all stand together, once we reach.
    But a lesson did they teach?

    But momma said always help people, be kind and generous,
    Don’t say I, but worry about the  ‘Us’.
    But momma didn’t know that people no longer care,
    They get what what they want, and do not do fair.
    They forget your help or the days they needed you,
    The one who made the stairs and was left behind by you.

    I laugh in despair, that momma when they had reached up,
    At least they didn’t break the stairs,
    I should have believed they never cared.

    But momma you never told me that I had to be little selfish,
    All I did was share and share until things got finished.

    I should have kept some things for myself in this world,
    Days after days things got more swirled.
    I got infuriated by all this muddle,
    I was left alone, with no one to cuddle.

    I cried, I shouted, I screamed.
    For God, what bad have I done,
    that I could not get to my dream.

    I vowed to not help people anymore,
    Not be kind or generous, or helping a sore.
    I saw the world through a broken glass,
    I was drawing myself away from the mean class.

    But deep in my heart, I believed,
    That the one who’s the strongest, and kindest,
    Then success, happiness all you achieve!
    I knew how to build those stairs, so I did it again,
    I learnt from experience, I grew from that pain.

    I reached even higher than they can imagine ever,
    And they were back in news telling me clever.
    Oh fools, I thought, what have you done,
    You never knew there’s a difference between a planet and the sun!

    But one thing all we must learn from now,
    Look for real people, because it’s a fake town.
    Share only with those who’re worthy of that gift,
    The people, who are there and never split.

    And you need to give yourself, is your help first,
    So that you climb up the moon, with the stairs you trust.

    Be kind, sincere and fearless,
    Because you’re special, and you’re no less!

     

    Hey guys, I’ve written this poem on my personal experience, it’s straight from the heart, and it’s my present story, if you liked it,share and help spread the word, thanks!

    Have you ever heard silence?

    “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and right doing there is a field. I’ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about.”
    ― Rumi said.

    “Have you ever heard the wonderful silence just before the dawn?
    Or the quiet and calm just as a storm ends?
    Or perhaps you know the silence when you haven’t the answer to a question you’ve been asked,
    Or the hush of a country road at night,
    Or the expectant pause of a room full of people when someone is just about to speak,
    Or, most beautiful of all, the moment after the door closes and you’re alone in the whole house?

    Each one is different, you know, and all very beautiful if you listen carefully.”

    Lately I’ve begun to realize that one can listen to silence and learn from it. It has a quality and a dimension of it’s own.
    When words are empty, equations doesn’t matter anymore. But it’s always difficult to keep shut or use the right amount of words.

    • First theory.

      The biggest challenge after success is shutting up about it. There are two secrets to success, one choose your words wisely, second I won’t tell you. Successful people tend to speak the right amount of words required, for only people intelligent enough can identify what’s relevant to be said and what’s not. Giving more information is not only harmful but might communicate a wrong idea.

      Say, if I’m chatting too much with my boss, he might think I’m interested in him beyond work. Or a cheesy salesperson may blabber out too much information, in a way nagging out the customer.

      Also in relationships, it’s important to understand the other person’s silence more than only words. Sometimes, in the middle of a disagreement with her husband or to avoid one, she’ll call time out. If she don’t pause long enough for a walk or a sitting meditation to reflect on what’s really going on, she’s likely to keep blundering with hurtful speech. In silence one has a chance to cool down, assess the situation, examine one’s own motivations, and consider what words will help heal the rift.

    • Second Theory.

      Speech pauses are the finest tricks of oratory since time immemorial. And the If you do it right, nobody is conscious of your pauses, but your ideas are more persuasively delivered. As white spaces add breathe to a paper full of words, speech pauses are necessary for verbal communication.

      For example:

      We were married ten years ago [pause] I still remember my first look at her coming up the aisle.Speech pause is an excellent way of delivering emotions. Isn’t it?

    • There’s another theory.

      Would you find it uncomfortable to go on a date and sit in silence for an hour because you had only recently met your companion? What would you think if after returning home from several months’ absence your parents and relative didn’t speak to you for several days? Can you imagine working on a four-person cattle crew for several days without being introduced to or speaking with one of the other members, who you did not know?

      Although these situations seem unusual to us, they are considered appropriate among the Apache. Although it seems natural to us that when people first meet introductions are in order and that when friends and relative reunite greeting and catching up will immediately follow, this is not the case for all cultures. There’s a study which investigates certain aspects of silence in the culture of the Western Apache of east-central Arizona.It is not the case that a man who is silent says nothing. – the Apache culture believes.

    • Finally I’d like to highlight the importance silence holds, spiritually. Silence soothes the harried soul.

      Maybe because I can talk up a storm, I love, even crave, silence. I feel safe in it. I know I won’t blurt out something foolish or harmful, something I’ll be sorry for. She said.

      It is in the womb of silence that we can grow ideas for the best course of action to take. They say it helps us use our personal resources judiciously. Talking expends energy and takes up time. One requires to identify inner knowledge one has, rather than looking for places to go for. The way in is through inside.


    You can surely fool people by your words, but not by your silence. In fact, silent is one’s loudest cry.

    IT’S TIME TO GIVE UP WORDS AND HEAR SILENCE.

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    Let’s talk #1

    I attended a conference today on public speaking by Mr. P, I was so motivated by it that I came to a conclusion. Have a read.

    What do you want to become? What is your dream? How do you see yourself 5 years down the line?
    Big questions. Aren’t these? Yes absolutely!

    So let’s talk. Let’s talk about dreams, aspirations, hopes.
    These are complicated and yet fascinating questions. But have you really thought about it ever?
    What if one doesn’t know what’s his or her dream? Is his life finished?

    No. If one doesn’t where to go, you’ll eventually reach the place you want to be. Because things will move in right order themselves. But how? There’s a simple answer. Because you know what not to do. Thus you won’t waste time unnecessarily. All you need is to dream big, continuously thrive for change and creativity in anything and everything you do. Keeping up the passion towards work and life and maintaining balance between the two is important.

    Just trust the process.
    Once you board the right bus at the right time and sit in  the right seats you’ll end up at the right destination. It’s not when you’ll choose but not choose the wrong ones and be left with the right one.

    So don’t choose but reject the wrong ones. Someone is always there to help you, and that’s you yourself. Got it? In this process, one day you’ll end up where you are meant to be.

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    Soulful Travel

    Wanderlust
    (n.) An irresistible desire to travel to understand one’s very existence

    Why do you travel?
    Yes, I travel.
    To follow the echo,
    Of millions of souls I pass by.

    Don’t you travel?
    We all do.
    To soothe the longing ache,
    Of your never ending wanderlust.

    Day after day, day after day,
    To cross seas and rivers
    To see the majestic ocean,
    Lying idle on the face of earth,
    As if admiring the sky.

    We bump each other.
    Cross paths,
    Heading to the same place,
    But taking different routes.

    Beautiful memories. Summers. Winters.
    Grand feasts, gaily dances.
    Weaving together, the tapestry of life.
    Painting together, the kaleidoscope of sky.

    Creating harmonious symphonies,
    We leave our shadows behind.

    The woods are lovely, dark and deep. But I have promises to keep. And miles to go before I sleep.
    ~Robert Frost, The Road Not Taken

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    And, Did you ever smell a memory?
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    Summers : The Book Of Hope

    Summer is here again. Summer, summer, summer! Who doesn’t love summers?
    Summers have a logic of their own and they always brought something out in you. Summer was supposed to be about freedom, fun, adventure and leisure.  What’s good about summer is it’s warmth , but one can never realize it without the cold of the winter. If we never had winters, summers would just be  an illusion like the moon lady’s love. Or when you are too tired to carry on, summer’s sunshine bring life to earth. Sun is the best thing to happen to earth I must say.

    Hafiz said, 
    “Even
    After
    All this time
    The Sun never says to the Earth,

    “You owe me.”

    Look
    What happens
    With a love like that,
    It lights the whole sky.”

    One always remembers one of those summers which, in a fortunate combination of delightful weather, delightful friends and delightful doing, come as near to perfection as anything can come in this world.

    “Green was the silence, wet was the light,
    the month of June trembled like a butterfly.”
    Pablo Neruda, 100 Love Sonnets

    So summers is a book of hope. Each day we had more light to read by. Summers makes one want to believe.  But hope is dangerous thing my friends, it can drive one crazy. But faith is sweet, as sweet as the first summer rain.

    And so with the sunshine and the blue sky, and the great bursts of leaves growing on the trees,  butterflies and chirping birdies, and the breeze, I believe life was beginning over and over again with the summer.

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    Which one’s your door?

    Here’s a story to take you to two doors, you can only choose one and only choose once. Choose wisely. 

    In a mother’s womb were two babies.
    One asked the other: “Do you believe in life after delivery?”
    The other replies, “why, of course. There has to be something after delivery. Maybe we are here to prepare ourselves for what we will be later.

    “Nonsense,” says the other. “There is no life after delivery. What would that life be?” “I don’t know, but there will be more light than here. Maybe we will walk with our legs and eat from our mouths.”

    The other says, “This is absurd! Walking is impossible. And eat with our mouths? Ridiculous. The umbilical cord supplies nutrition. Life after delivery is to be excluded. The umbilical cord is too short.”
    “I think there is something and maybe it’s different than it is here.” the other replies, “No one has ever come back from there. Delivery is the end of life, and in the after-delivery it is nothing but darkness and anxiety and it takes us nowhere.”

    “Well, I don’t know,” says the other, “but certainly we will see mother and she will take care of us.”

    “Mother??” You believe in mother? Where is she now? “She is all around us. It is in her that we live. Without her there would not be this world.”
    “I don’t see her, so it’s only logical that she doesn’t exist.”
    To which the other replied, “sometimes when you’re in silence you can hear her, you can perceive her.”I believe there is a reality after delivery and we are here to prepare ourselves for that reality.

    via Ben at DOP – The Door Of Perception

    This is a great analogy if those who don’t believe in the afterlife are complete fools and know so very little about what really exists outside this reality of ours.
    Every breath you take, is proof of creator.
    Every flower, animal and tree, is creator born.
    You would not be alive without the creator’s breath of life.

    And I don’t believe in life after death. Only because I don’t believe in death. I believe life is eternal and the only thing that dies is your physical form. We are only visitors in this realm.

    “You do not have a soul.  You are a soul.  You have a body.” – George MacDonald

    It’s all about faith. What you believe in, whether in science or religion, faith is all what matters. Found your door?
    Share and help others to find theirs.

    Have you heard a truth purer than this?

    No fancy musings, but wrote a prayer for the soul this time, rantings of this soul-cafe :

    Little rain-drops fall and wrinkle the sea,
    They vanish, and die utterly.
    One would never know that it rained,
    If the whirls didn’t whisper their arrival on the face of sea.

    Souls dive down and wrinkle life,
    Whence they vanish to the infinity.
    One might never know that the souls descend,
    If the face of life didn’t unveil wrinkles on its face


    Remember a soul never ages, it only grows, wiser each day.
    For the those who age are the ones who die.
    And souls are not meant for it.
    After all the dusk knew what the dawn never expected.

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