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Is there more to life than just being happy

They say all what matters in life is happiness. You need not worry too much about the future and live in the present and be happy instead.

Happy Happy Happy. It is easy to say than to be in reality. So what is happiness?

The oxford dictionary says Happiness is the feeling you have when things give you pleasure and can be quite a lively feeling; contentment is a quieter feeling that you get when you have learned to find pleasure in things.

In philosophy, happiness is translated from the Greek concept of eudaimonia, and refers to the good life, or flourishing, as opposed to an emotion.

In psychology, happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being which can be defined by, among others, positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. Happy mental states may reflect judgements by a person about their overall well-being.

Wikipedia says, since the 1960s, happiness research has been conducted in a wide variety of scientific disciplines, including gerontology, social psychology, clinical and medical research and happiness economics.

I didn’t know that happiness was a matter of research in itself which is being studied for ages.

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Now, it means, each day every human is striving towards a happier life. This actually creates a scenario where the person is not content with the present life and hoping for a better future and telling himself that “I am fine, I am okay, I am happy.”

Life is not just about being happy. Life is about learning, about being agile. World is changing everyday and one needs to adapt to it. And not being concerned about being happy, and not thinking too much but being focused towards goals and responsibilities is what life is about.

Say I love cooking. I have a family of 4. I have a job. I cook everyday for my husband, my kids and me. And I feel it like a job. What if I start enjoying it and start preparing meals with more happiness. But does it matter, will the food taste better if I cook it being happy or I cook being normal like I am doing my job. That’s a mystery to me.

If you’ll look for happiness, you’ll end being sadder instead. Because now you’ll focus on things which make you happy and if you don’t get that thing or fail at it, you’ll be sad. So why not just focus on life than looking forward being happy everyday.

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I understand, it is very challenging. Everybody is looking for a better tomorrow. I think the best way is not to push yourself hard and not link your happiness with things or people. You have one life. I think laughter is the best solution. You may not be happy, you had a bad day, but you can always read a comic book or watch a comedy movie and feel good. Yes, feeling good should be the goal is life than being just happy.

I asked mom, “Are you happy?” She went into a deep thought and said she’s fine, she’s okay, she’s happy. And that one question I asked her triggered gloom and her entire life flash backed in front of her, where she compared reality with her hopes and dreams. And she must have felt a little less. This is the same question we ask ourselves everyday and end up being trapped in emotional stress of not accomplishing dreams.

 

It’s the want of happiness, which causes pain. The desire which never ends. God created happiness I think to create sadness. The trick is to feel good instead.

A couple of days later I asked my mom, “Are you good?” She said oh yes I am. And yes is good actually. So goodness is the key. Not thinking much, and focusing on whatever is going on, whatever is best for the body, mind and soul.

We are all good and will be good everyday.

Have a good day.

 

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Is there a geek in you?

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by!
~The Road Not Taken, Robert Frost
This is perhaps one of the favorite quote of mine. I just felt like sharing.So coming to the topic, is there any geek in you?
Wait do you know exactly who is a geek like? Let me open the dictionary of geeks and extrapolate!

geek1
ɡiːk/
informal
noun
 
  1. 1.
    an unfashionable or socially inept person.
verb
 
  1. 1.

    engage in or discuss computer-related tasks obsessively or with great attention to technical detail.

    Now Google says this. Not all exciting! If someone actually a geek would also disagree. :/
    Historically, a geek was a circus person in the sideshow who performed some bizarre feat.

    <But the good news is>

    Lately I’ve been in and around geeks! {Writing this adds a smile on my face :P}
    Geeks are genuine individuals who have an open heart for learning and they are just glued to whatever they’re passionate about! They are not procrastinators or those who waste their time in thinking and not doing!

    I would say, geek is someone who is totally passionate about technology and how it comes alive.
    A geek will not only know about all the cool tech-stuff but dig in more. I mean a geeky guy will not only play games but also create one!

    So geeks are the ones who are analytical and good at understanding stuff, and that too related to technology, which doesn’t click in an ordinary’s mind. So does this mean geeks are extraordinary?
    That’s the word extra, just this word makes you different than a geek!

    There’s a geek in each one of us. Rule of thumb. Like I always say, there’s a poet in each one of us, a geek is also hidden. Came across these little kids doing some cool geeky stuff, I was bewildered, how do they do it!?
    Have  a look!  This kids at Camp-K12 are doing wonders! They are learning technology — the closest thing to magic in 21st century! Agree?

    Kids can learn to code. kids can learn to make android games. Kids can do nearly professional graphic designing!
    Let me take you to the Facebook link. Here.

    Are you surprised? Even I was! I wish I was in 2nd standard at present and had a chance to do these cool things at Camp-K12. Don’t you feel like your childhood missed something, which these kids lucky enough to have.

    I wanna grow up once again! You?

    I’m happy for these kids. There’s a platform to nurture their limitless creativity. Let us too indulge in limitless creativity.
    Think aloud! Think Limitless!


    What’s your pick on this? Let me know.
    And do encourage these kids! they deserve applause!

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