Tag Archives: change

Is there more to life than just being happy

They say all what matters in life is happiness. You need not worry too much about the future and live in the present and be happy instead.

Happy Happy Happy. It is easy to say than to be in reality. So what is happiness?

The oxford dictionary says Happiness is the feeling you have when things give you pleasure and can be quite a lively feeling; contentment is a quieter feeling that you get when you have learned to find pleasure in things.

In philosophy, happiness is translated from the Greek concept of eudaimonia, and refers to the good life, or flourishing, as opposed to an emotion.

In psychology, happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being which can be defined by, among others, positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. Happy mental states may reflect judgements by a person about their overall well-being.

Wikipedia says, since the 1960s, happiness research has been conducted in a wide variety of scientific disciplines, including gerontology, social psychology, clinical and medical research and happiness economics.

I didn’t know that happiness was a matter of research in itself which is being studied for ages.

wp-1497977301689.jpg

Now, it means, each day every human is striving towards a happier life. This actually creates a scenario where the person is not content with the present life and hoping for a better future and telling himself that “I am fine, I am okay, I am happy.”

Life is not just about being happy. Life is about learning, about being agile. World is changing everyday and one needs to adapt to it. And not being concerned about being happy, and not thinking too much but being focused towards goals and responsibilities is what life is about.

Say I love cooking. I have a family of 4. I have a job. I cook everyday for my husband, my kids and me. And I feel it like a job. What if I start enjoying it and start preparing meals with more happiness. But does it matter, will the food taste better if I cook it being happy or I cook being normal like I am doing my job. That’s a mystery to me.

If you’ll look for happiness, you’ll end being sadder instead. Because now you’ll focus on things which make you happy and if you don’t get that thing or fail at it, you’ll be sad. So why not just focus on life than looking forward being happy everyday.

butterfly1_31-480x384

I understand, it is very challenging. Everybody is looking for a better tomorrow. I think the best way is not to push yourself hard and not link your happiness with things or people. You have one life. I think laughter is the best solution. You may not be happy, you had a bad day, but you can always read a comic book or watch a comedy movie and feel good. Yes, feeling good should be the goal is life than being just happy.

I asked mom, “Are you happy?” She went into a deep thought and said she’s fine, she’s okay, she’s happy. And that one question I asked her triggered gloom and her entire life flash backed in front of her, where she compared reality with her hopes and dreams. And she must have felt a little less. This is the same question we ask ourselves everyday and end up being trapped in emotional stress of not accomplishing dreams.

 

It’s the want of happiness, which causes pain. The desire which never ends. God created happiness I think to create sadness. The trick is to feel good instead.

A couple of days later I asked my mom, “Are you good?” She said oh yes I am. And yes is good actually. So goodness is the key. Not thinking much, and focusing on whatever is going on, whatever is best for the body, mind and soul.

We are all good and will be good everyday.

Have a good day.

 

Advertisements

India’s trouble mantra: It’s complacency with mediocrity

A silly young cricket, accustomed to sing
Through the warm, sunny months of gay summer and spring,
Began to complain when he found that, at home,
His cupboard was empty, and winter had come.

Corruption. Pollution. Unemployment. Illiteracy. Women Empowerment.
No. The biggest trouble India’s facing is the deep rooted mediocrity among her people.

People have a chalta h attitude, which means let it be, whatever’s happening, let it happen.
We are a country with a glorious past. Our battle for freedom proves the inherent never giving up attitude with our souls.

We were like ants:
1. Not intimidated by the sheer size of the objects that they need to carry
2. Value Teamwork, they help each other making it possible for them to achieve their goals
3. Organized in how they carry out their tasks that they are able to accomplish it no matter how big the task is
4. Having your reserves-up to cope with unforeseen things

But things have changed.

Non-performing citizens, our governance system is paralyzed. People have lost the required motivation to carry forward the legacy of our glorious past.  As this culture of mediocrity has perpetuated meticulously by the socio-political-cultural systems, it has deeply percolated into the psyche of an average Indian. Not only that, we all configure the major trouble is the missing elements of “excellence and self- discipline/regulation” in socio-cultural spheres of India. The common man has become the symbol of bad self- discipline and non-performance.

Today’s youth and it’s false ambitions, the verbal fluency of our intellectuals, and the fickle-mindedness of our politicians- all this leave little but a gnawing incompleteness in the frequency of the oscillation of our nation. The mindless demonstrations by youth and it’s representatives and the personal opinion of the common man: all are critical of the present malfunctioning system of governance and shout for collective desire for change.

In the bleached atmosphere of the new century, it is hard to tear apart the mediocrity from the fabric of our nation, the equation hardly matters. What matters is that it’s people are believers, and they expect life to change. Something good is bound to rise from ashes. Far away in the rumbling foundation, a seed of hope is silently spreading it’s roots and the sirens will soon sing the melody of a coming transformation.

In a small town, a village teacher is giving lessons to the future torch bearers of our nation, the little hope, though faint, gives hope for a remake. The fruit of the tamped earth must rise and bring back the zeal to get over with our complacency with mediocrity.

A traveler’s muse

In city, my heart was spread so thin that I wasn’t feeling much of anything.
But there on the cliffs, I realized I was near the end.
My heart swelled and then hurt.

A traveler.
Another city.
A fresh chapter begins.
A new community ebbs and flows around.

It’s people.
Their dreams. And hopes.
The strains of Mozart’s music swim in the air,
Gliding through countryside’s many cafes,
Glistening shores where children play,
Cobbled streets, merging with the silhouette of the 0ld fort.

Time rolls.

Then the new friend became a speck on horizon,
The traveler felt a familiar sadness.

Not a story of enemies.
Not a story of friends.
Just a story of strangers, with some memories.

You know a time when you seek happiness, truth?

Not because you’re lost.
But you’re closer to where you’re meant to be.
That time, you’ll be, your own sun.
You’ll know that you’re made up of sunlight, thunder and fireworks.

No matter how far you travel, you can never run away from home.

You’ve got — roots of innovation and wings of imagination!
Let them grow.


“This is a not-so-obligatory present, wrapped up in 500 words.”
If you liked the post, do share.

Follow blog to keep in touch.

Wish to change? Why?

We are each thread in the tapestry of life, an instrument in the divine orchestra, a color of the rainbow and the entire spectrum, unique and yet part of the same whole, you are me and I m you! Embrace your uniqueness.

So I saw he was constantly delved into the idea that “People change so do YOU!” That’s not so right. You can’t just change for others.
So, C-H-A-N-G-E This six letter word. They say change is the only constant phenomenon. Right.

Ever wondered what’s common between people, perceptions and priorities? They change. That’s what you’ll hear from everyone out there. But the truth is one doesn’t change, it’s just the mask that falls off. You are perfect as you are. Imperfectly though.
How hard you try to change, you would gravitate back. Why? Because. .. Because it’s meant to be that way. So don’t think much. Don’t think ever to change for someone. You can’t wish to change yourself for people. After all why you are the one who has to change in order to compromise? You want to change? Change for yourself. For the greater good. But not for someone who doesn’t even care about how you are right now. The sole reason for change should be YOU yourself. Only you. Gandhi said, “Be the change, you want to see.” There must be a reason. No?

Seen a butterfly? It is the result of a transformation from the caterpillar. If there were no change in this world., there would be no butterflies. It changes for itself, it’s SOUL. Well well, nature continues to teach us the basics of living!

It all happens as its meant to be. Things go in the right direction. All it requires is to wait and see how the story ends. When its finished. You would notice things weren’t random at all.

Take care. Wanna read more? How to change one’s perception towards change! Like the post? Share it with your loved ones. Let them know you care. And don’t forget to follow to miss any posts. ☺

How to change one’s perspective towards change?

How to change one’s perspective towards change?

Never stop dreaming.

tumblr_n21lusI21V1st5lhmo1_1280

Have you ever thought of changing your perspective towards life, work, people or change itself? It sounds difficult but it’s really not.
Change is the only constant phenomenon in the universe. Don’t be surprised! Listen to my story how I discovered what I wanted from life at this moment.

I dream.
I wake up.
I dream again.
Countless things I wonder about.
Then come back where it began, I dream,
To choose.
To change.
To imagine.
To believe.
To do something.
To be someone.
To be a part of the spectrum.

And yes, I am not lost.
I am on my way.

Alright! That was a little poetry from my side. Hope you liked it.
I was not much motivated an year back when I couldn’t get into a medical college through the All India examination. Then luckily I got myself admitted into one of the best engineering colleges in India, Netaji Subhas Institute of Technology.
And here I realized that I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I meant to be.
Life doesn’t always offer you what you demand from it. It’s complicated. Right?

At present I am volunteering at Preseed , which has indeed rekindled a spark within me. I remember it all started when a senior, Akshay Pruthi approached me with an internship for Todoed. And now the road to learning has just begun.
It’s been an adventure for me, because I m going to places I have never been before, metaphorically. To raise one’s words, not voice and be able communicate ideas, I am learning how to deliver the right message, the right way.

And above all one needs to learn how to have good ways with people.
In short, to be a better human one could relate with.

I’m curious to discover my potentials and explore new avenues.
You too, need to come out of your comfort zones and try new stuff.
I bet you’ll enjoy it. 😉 It’s like we don’t want to hear the truth, and come out of our illusions. But I must remind you that if you are here to change your perspective, then you need to hear the truth.
Look at me, I am just another ordinary person, like you, preparing myself for this extraordinary journey to create myself! So can you. ☺

Be the change you want to see in the world.
~Mahatma Gandhi

What we see depends mainly on what we look for. Go ahead and ask yourself , “Am I going in the right direction?” You are the best person to answer this. Because if you wish to change your perspective, you need to change yourself first. And most important is to know the path you are heading towards.
Keep yourself motivated enough to dream big. You need not worry about the consequences. An effort is all what’s required. ☺

Adapting to change.

“Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.”

~ George Bernard Shaw

Task management is an art. Believe me, if you are able to manage your tasks well, it would completely change your attitude towards work and would improve your performance for sure. I have been through this phase. It took me time to adopt new strategies and change my way of working.

Most importantly one needs a reminder system to let oneself know what to do and when. It could be as simple as your diary or a pen. I started with simply jotting down targets for the day.

Then I heard about task management tools,in fashion these days which people used, for instance Any.doTodoist,or Todoed.

So,I started with Todoist. It did great help. I could assign myself tasks for the day and at the end of the day I felt more content to see my done list. Then I switched to Todoed. It has been just a few days I have been using this tool and it has helped me amazingly well to manage tasks.

As we work, we communicate primarily on Facebook and share ideas in our conversations in chats. I appreciate Todoed’s simplicity and it’s most promising feature which let’s me select text from my chats and assign it as a task to myself or my co-workers simply by right-clicking. It has proved certainly better and it’s all the more user-friendly. I have started preparing a daily list of tasks and coordinate the action plan with my co-workers accordingly. I prioritize items on Todoed ,segregating them as urgent or non-urgent.Then I strike-off the completed tasks and add new ones.

So, what are the advantages to use a to-do list?

  1. It let’s you focus your mind on important objectives
  2. You are less likely to forget tasks you are supposed to do.
  3. Organizes your work in a better manner and keeps your thoughts in order.
  4. Most importantly it saves time and speed.
  5. You are able to prioritize your work.
  6. You are always on track and a record of tasks you have done makes you feel motivated.

I owe it all to one of my seniors, who recommended me to change my perspective towards work and use Todoed. Yes, it worked for me and I’m in the process to transform my way of working, so can you.

stack-of-paper1