“Everyone wants to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
Someone told me do blogging as an when you feel like doing nothing. But I would rather say I write when I feel something, and want to express those feelings. So here am I. Today as I woke up, a thought struck my mind, who are FRIENDS, what is FRIENDSHIP. Then as strolled through the park, I fabricated the whole idea.
First of all, let’s look at facts. According to Oxford Dictionary we have it as “A person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically one exclusive of family relations”. Then they have taken the definition into sub-points as
- an acquaintance or a stranger one comes across
- One’s close relatives.
- A person who supports a cause, organization, or country by giving financial or other help
- A person who is not an enemy or opponent; an ally
- A familiar or helpful thing
- A contact on a social networking website
Okay, so a simple word has these complex attributes. Let me explain it my way. If we look on general terms a friend is someone who is a well-wisher, always there for you, not a friend for mere sake of any benefit. But you’ll hardly find a person with all these attributes. So, we take it okay and are contended with what we have. Let me make a generalized statement for myself, “I am always in good terms with my friends, a healthy relationship.” Yes. I am, because I offer more expect less. But friendship is never like that dear readers. It has to be a two-way channel.
Talking more about the relationships I have. Firstly with my parents. Umm.. no I don’t want to discuss it right now,may be some day later. It’s a little hard to explain here. Let me tell you about some other kinds of friends I have met. It’s been an year, I have left High-school, but I still don’t mind dropping an Hi! to those friends occasionally for their know-how, although I was not in much close to them in school. But I don’t find that kind of enthusiasm from anyone else’s side. I mean they hardly feel the need to reciprocate the exercise I follow.
Ultimately you lose friends when you move over from one place. You have to move on.
I am telling you by the time one reaches college, if one’s active enough into the varied activities, their college is bustling with, one can make many friends. But again I end up with a question Are those folks really my good friends I can rely upon wholly ? I really don’t know. Sorry, I do know. They aren’t. Okay forget that. Let’s ponder upon the phrase Best-friends. I have no idea. I have got none. Don’t be surprised. Yes, I do have some good friends but I still don’t know whether to call them best-friends.
“The only way to have a friend is to be one.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
The truth is one day every individual you call a friend will leave. They can’t be there forever. As time passes, people change and we make new friends. But as I told you about my behavior, I am a kind of good-girl. Haha, I am serious. I still have room for all those souls I have met in life, I remember the memories with them, I try to keep in touch and that’s enough for me. I consider every other soul I pass by as a friend, classmates, elders, relatives, teachers, seniors, neighbors, co-workers. Anyone. There’s an old couple who live near by. They are very sweet. I love to hear their stories, about their children and grandchildren. May be I can call them friends too.
I don’t express everything to someone I would like being friends with but at the moment is not a friend. I rather prefer to listen. My friends, all what I have, say that’s where I lag behind. I should speak more to people. I do speak but I want them to first listen, listen to the voice of soul, what I want to tell them.I might not say a thousand words. But I would make you feel even littlest of thoughts and I wish you to reciprocate the same. If you can,then you are connection. If you can’t, then I can’t help it.
Remember, there’s always a reason when you meet people, may be you find your new connections or discover the best ones. Eventually one and all of your relationships will fall into yawing connections. So never forget the yawning ones, because one day they were the best you had.